Being genuine is REALLY important to me. But, I would be lying to you if I told you that I haven’t struggled with this. Being truly genuine is TERRIFYING for me. Sharing part of myself with you is something that I have really struggled with and not for lack of desiring to. Sharing part of my self with you requires that I am vulnerable. It requires that I am willing to show you that I don’t have it all together. That I am human. This is scary, because I fear what people will think of my story. Have you ever experienced similar feelings?
I always tell my clients that therapy is ALL ABOUT RELATIONSHIP. Yes, I went and got my Master’s Degree to best know how to be a Therapist. But I will tell you what, in my experience so far, the most effective therapy is when I am focused on being genuine and building an individual relationship with each and every one of my clients. Connection and relationship are so healing, in and of themselves. When you know that you are not alone and someone else has shared similar experiences and similar pain, it is refreshing. Not because we wish bad on others, but because we want to know that WE ARE NOT ALONE!
I was explaining to a client the other day that I really dove in and allowed myself to acknowledge and process my own trauma 6 years ago and it was the scariest, most painful experience I have ever had. If you are asking yourself - how does this help me? Because I have empathy and compassion for where you are at.
I KNOW that it is SCARY.
I KNOW that it HURTS.
My own therapy experience lit a new passion in my life for supporting others who are hurting and trying to heal, because I understand it. While our experiences won’t be the exact same, I can tell you that the pain and heartache was worth every single second, because I got to let go of some of my past that was holding on with a vengeance.
Be encouraged by the fact that this pain doesn’t have to last forever. You do not have to face this alone, and know, that I am right there with you navigating this life and the challenges that it throws at us.
I am human, just like you. You are not alone.
P.S. Have I told you how much I love getting to live life with you and share in genuine connection and relationship?
"I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship."
- Brene Brown