I love the topic of connection. In my last newsletter, I focused on the power of true, deep, genuine connection with others.
Do you ever wonder what this type of connection would look like with ourselves?
Most people would tell me that they do not have time for that. That they are too busy pleasing everyone else or that there is not enough time in the day to think about themselves. However, isn't this the most important relationship/connection of them all? If we do not have a connection with ourselves and who we truly are, how can we genuinely connect with others?
So what does it mean to have a connection with ourselves? Most have not even taken the time to build this connection enough to know who they truly are. We all have an idea of who we want others to think we are, but is that the true, genuine you?
Throughout life, it can become easy to build a facade. We give an outward appearance and display of who we want people to know. We become afraid that if we show our true colors and if we show our true selves that somehow that will not be good enough. People will not like who we truly are, deep down and if we are honest with ourselves, sometimes we don't like who we are deep down. This facade can become waring and difficult to maintain though. It becomes too much for us when we strive more towards being who we think everyone else wants us to be and lose sight completely of our true selves. The more distance that grows between the facade and our true self can become too great in that we can completely forget who we truly are.
A great place to start in having a true, deep, genuine relationship with yourself is by beginning with self-care. Take some time each day to do something that you enjoy. Maybe it is a walk in the park, or grabbing a Mocha from Starbucks. Maybe it is you taking some time to journal about what you have been experiencing recently. Making yourself a priority can be the hardest thing for you to do, but it is the first step in building that relationship with yourself. Recognizing that we are worthy and deserving of that time is absolutely vital.
Remind yourself daily that you are worthy of love and affection from yourself. Whether this be a sticky note on your bathroom mirror, engaging in self-care, or writing yourself a note of gratitude at the end of the day. There are many ways to show ourselves love and affection, we just often do not make the time for it.
How can you begin to build a true, deep, genuine relationship with yourself? Are you willing to set aside time for Self-Care and Self-Compassion/Love?
I would love to stay connected with you throughout this process! Send me an update.
I look forward to hearing from you,
Brittany Wingfield, MS, LPCC
How can you remind yourself to Self-Care each day?
An alarm in your phone, a note at your desk... Personalize it to you.
"Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”
― Steve Maraboli
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