Up on the housetop, click, click, click,
Down through the chimney with old St. Nick
Oh wait wrong month! Does anyone else feel like this year is flying by?
As we enter into this time of year, there is a lot of joy in the air, but you may not be feeling this joy and it can be shame inducing.
Do you dread this time of year? Knowing that it can bring or be a reminder of difficult times.
Maybe it’s one of the above or something different. Either way, holidays can be tough. They are tough because everyone is joyous during this time of year and it doesn’t feel like you are allowed to be sad. This makes it extra difficult to share that you are struggling, because so many others are SOOO excited, and therefore it feels really lonely and isolating.
I want to take a moment right now to give you permission to feel however you feel. Whether it’s happy, sad, angry, lonely, or confused. Whatever the emotion may be, let it be. It’s kind of like Facebook during a difficult breakup. The last thing that you want to see is other happy couples, but sometimes you torture yourself and make yourself log on. Don’t torture yourself. Don’t force yourself to act happy when you’re not, just let yourself be where you are at. The worst thing you can do for yourself is pretend to feel something that you don’t. This takes more effort than just letting yourself be and being true to yourself during this time. Some helpful things during this time may be:
How can you acknowledge your needs and give them the attention they need during this holiday season?
Reminder: You don't have to face this difficult time alone.
Sending a virtual hug and love,
November is the month of giving!
Welcome to November!! For the month of November, Nurtured Hearts Counseling is all about giving! Around this time of year, one of my favorite things is that we get to be grateful for what we have and give to others who may not be as fortunate.
I love giving. Which is part of the reason why I absolutely love my job. I get to be part of many people's lives and care about them and show them support. Which for some, this may be a first. There is nothing greater than this.
P.S. Are you interested in learning more about how to support a Survivor of Sexual Abuse? I developed an online course that you will help educate you on what the Survivor is experiencing and how you can help support them!