I have had many clients come into my office for a session and be surprised when I give them my full attention and not take notes. This is intentional. I fully believe in the idea of leaving everything at the door and showing up 100% for each and every one of my clients. This allows for my clients to experience safety and trust within the therapeutic relationship.
Relationship is such a core part of therapy. My clients have usually had relationships tarnished in a multitude of ways. One of them being that they have not been validated in their experiences. Those close to them have diminished, not believed, excused, or ignored their experience. Sharing difficult feelings or experiences is hard as is, to then not be validated or believed makes that process so discouraging. It often leads to feelings of wanting to shut down and not trust or be vulnerable again.
Inducing Trust in Relationship
Some of my clients have had trust broken. They have trusted someone in their life and that trust has either been taken advantage of or not valued. This makes ongoing relationships difficult. To know that someone is present with them and believes them, builds trust.
Restoring Faith in Relationships Again
Therapy is an amazing place to experience that healthy relationships can exist. It is nice for many clients because there is safety that comes from the fact that the therapeutic relationship exists within a controlled setting. What I mean by this is that the therapeutic relationship is a professional relationship, but I am still a human being who shows care for each of my clients. Therapy allows for clients to practice relationship in a safe setting. They get to practice being vulnerable, they get to practice asking for what they need, and learn how to set boundaries to protect themselves in future relationships. In gaining new relationships skills and seeing that there are safe people that exist and want to care about them, my clients can move forward in pursuing healthy relationships in their life.
So, why don’t I take notes? In short, to show up and be 100% for someone. That 50 minutes of feeling cared for, truly is so healing.
Owner and Therapist
Nurtured Hearts Counseling
Lone Tree, CO
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