Breaking the People-Pleasing Cycle: How Therapy Helps You Reclaim Yourself
There’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from always being “the nice one.” The reliable one. The person who says yes, smooths things over, avoids conflict, and keeps everyone else comfortable—even at the expense of their own needs.
The Weight of Perfectionism: When “Doing Your Best” Never Feels Like Enough
Perfectionism often wears a socially acceptable mask. It can look like ambition, high standards, or a strong work ethic. From the outside, perfectionists are often praised—reliable, driven, detail-oriented. But beneath that surface is often a constant pressure.
3 Reasons Why I Choose to Show Up for Clients 100%
Relationship is such a core part of therapy. My clients have usually had relationships tarnished in a multitude of ways. One of them being that they have not been validated in their experiences. Those close to them have diminished, not believed, excused, or ignored their experience. Sharing difficult feelings or experiences is hard as is, to then not be validated or believed makes that process so discouraging. It often leads to feelings of wanting to shut down and not trust or be vulnerable again.
How Trauma Affects the Brain
“We now know that trauma compromises the brain area that communicates the physical, embodied feeling of being alive. These changes explain why traumatized individuals become hypervigilant to threat at the expense of spontaneously engaging in their day-to-day lives. They also help us understand why traumatized people so often keep repeating the same problems and have such trouble learning from experience. We now know that their behaviors are not the result of moral failings or signs of lack of willpower or bad character–they are caused by actual changes in the brain”
- Bessel A. Van Der Kolk, "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma"
15 Ways to Help Ease Anxiety!
Anxiety:
a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
a nervous disorder characterized by a state of excessive uneasiness and apprehension, typically with compulsive behavior or panic attacks.