Do you ever get sick of living to make others happy? It leaves you feeling Exhausted. Unfulfilled. Empty.
You are not the only person living this way. A lot of people get stuck in a rut of trying to make others happy, as this often brings a false sense of fulfillment. If I can be better to please others and do what makes them happy, that makes me happy. Sure, this might work for a few days or possibly even months, but after years of living for other's happiness and approval, this becomes DRAINING!
We often have guilt around making sure that we are happy, it feels selfish. But the reality is that we can’t be the best person for friendships, in our marriage, in work relationships, or parenthood, if we are not first taking care of ourselves.
What would it look like if you were willing to assess what your needs were and put as much work into pleasing those as you spend pleasing everyone else? Hint: you might feel more fulfilled and truly happy.
The reality is that we are responsible for our own happiness. This applies to everyone, meaning that it is not your job to go out of your way to constantly work to make others happy. In the same breath, you are responsible for your own happiness, so if no one else is responsible for that, who’s going to? If no one, including you is tending to your needs, you get neglected.
This is often when people finally start to realize the importance of meeting their own needs, when they are completely empty. Imagine if you never put gas in your car, it’s not going to be the reliable resource that you expect it to be. It’s going to sit completely stagnant right where it ran out of gas. The same is true for you. If you don’t ensure that your life is remaining fulfilled and your needs are being met, you eventually run out of gas, leaving you stagnant and unfulfilled.
1. Discover Your Needs.
2. Be Willing to Meet Your Needs.
3. Let Others Be Responsible for Their Happiness.
What would it look like for you to not live for other's happiness, but for your own?
P.S. HAVE YOU TAKEN THE LOVED ONES COURSE YET?
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I am a Therapist in Lone Tree, Colorado and my goal for this blog is to explore taboo subjects that no one is willing to talk about and I am eager to bring awareness to.
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